What Do You Deserve? With Melissa Carey
Episode 590 · November 3rd, 2026 · 22 mins 19 secs
About this Episode
Fishing Without Bait #538 – Melissa Carey: What Do You Deserve? (Part 3)
What do you truly deserve from life? And how often do you sacrifice your own needs to accommodate everyone else's expectations?
In Part 3 of our continuing conversation with Melissa Carey, host and behavioral health therapist Jim Ellermeyer explores the importance of self-awareness, personal boundaries, and creating a life that reflects who you really are.
Melissa opens up about her own experience of being highly intuitive and naturally accommodating others, often anticipating their needs before they even ask. She reflects on recognizing these patterns, learning to honor her own choices, and understanding that personal growth doesn't happen all at once.
Sometimes, what feels like returning to an old struggle is actually an opportunity to go deeper.
Jim and Melissa also discuss the freedom that comes from admitting "I don't know." Rather than viewing uncertainty as a weakness, they explore how curiosity and a beginner's mind can open new possibilities.
The conversation moves into Melissa's passion for sound-based mindfulness experiences, including Tibetan and crystal singing bowls, tuning forks, drums, humming, and breathwork. She describes how participants can embrace unexpected sounds, connect with a group, and discover their own experience of presence.
Melissa also shares her perspective on Reiki as a personal spiritual practice, her interest in aromatherapy, and her willingness to challenge conventional assumptions.
Throughout the conversation, Jim connects these ideas to 12-step recovery, behavioral change, and the importance of acceptance.
In this episode:
Reclaiming your needs without abandoning compassion for others
Setting boundaries around unsolicited advice
Understanding why personal growth happens in layers
Finding freedom in saying "I don't know"
Exploring sound, rhythm, and mindful listening
Reiki as a practice of personal awareness
Challenging assumptions and opening yourself to new perspectives
Accepting the present as a starting point for change
Remember: mindfulness isn't about having every answer. It's about being present, remaining open-minded, and choosing how you participate in your own life.
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